While caring for a loved one can be very rewarding, it also involves many stressors.

And since caregiving is often a long-term challenge, the emotional impact can snowball over time.

You may face years or even decades of caregiving responsibilities.

“It can be particularly disheartening if you feel that you’re in over your head, if there’s no hope that your family member will get better, or if, despite your best efforts, their condition is gradually deteriorating,” said Twila Doucet, caregiver coordinator for Long-Term Care Authority of Enid Area Agency on Aging.

If the stress of caregiving is left unchecked, it can take a toll on your health, relationships, and state of mind-eventually leading to burnout, a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion.

“And when you get to that point, both you and the person you’re caring for suffer,” Doucet said.

“The demands of caregiving can be exhausting and overwhelming. Whether you are a caregiver of a family member or a senior raising children, there are some steps that you can take to rein in the stress and regain a sense of balance, joy and hope in your life.”

Doucet said taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity if you’re a caregiver.

“Cultivating your own emotional and physical wellbeing is just as important as making sure your family member gets to their doctor’s appointment or takes their medication on time,” she said.

Feeling powerless is the number one contributor to burnout and depression.

“And it’s an easy trap to fall into as a caregiver, especially if you feel stuck in a role you didn’t expect or helpless to change things for the better,” Doucet said. “But no matter the situation, you aren’t powerless. This is especially true when it comes to your state of mind. You can’t always get the extra time, money or physical assistance you’d like, but you can always get more happiness and hope.”

When faced with a loved one’s illness or the burden of caregiving, there’s often a need to make sense of the situation.

“But you can spend a tremendous amount of energy dwelling on things you can’t change and for which there are no clear answers,” Doucet said. “Try to avoid the emotional trap of feeling sorry for yourself or searching for someone to blame.”

Since it’s easier to accept a difficult situation when there are other areas of life that are rewarding, Doucet said it’s important not to let caregiving take over your whole existence.

“Invest in things that give you meaning and purpose whether it’s your family, church, a favorite hobby or your career,” she said.

She also suggested talking to a supportive family member or friend.

“Positive reinforcement doesn’t have to come from the person you’re caring for,” Doucet said. “When you’re feeling unappreciated, turn to friends and family who will listen to you and acknowledge your efforts.”

Asking for caregiving help is also suggested.

“Taking on all the responsibilities of caregiving without regular breaks or assistance is a surefire recipe for caregiver burnout,” Doucet said. “Don’t try to do it all alone.”

She also said to look into respite care.

“Enlist friends and family who live near you to watch your loved one so you can take a well-deserved break,” she said.

“We can help you at LTCA of Enid Area Agency on Aging.”

For more information, contact Doucet at 580-234- 7475.