The holiday season is upon us and this time of year often brings with it the joy of holiday decorating, the giving and receiving of gifts and big family get-togethers complete with large sitdown meals.

But for the caregiver of an aged or ailing loved one, the holiday season can also bring with it the stress of hosting well-meaning family and friends who simply want to celebrate the season with that loved one as well.

Here are some ideas to help you reduce the added stress the holiday season can bring:

• Keep the guest list small.

If your loved one is the family’s matriarch or patriarch, the chances that the entire family will want to spend the holiday with your loved one is probably high.

However, modifying a once grand family occasion into a much simpler get-together or even a few smaller get-togethers may be needed for both you and your older adult.

• Suggest the big family gathering be hosted by another relative.

Now that your loved one has gotten older, it may be time to move the family gathering from their home to that of a child, grandchild or other close family member.

• Change the way you shop.

Instead of fighting the holiday crowds to buy gifts or shop for groceries and other basics, try shopping online.

• Ask for help.

If you are still feeling a bit overwhelmed with the additional holiday hustle and bustle, don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for help.

• Stay connected with other caregivers.

Taking a break from your duties to talk with other caregivers who are in similar situations can both ease your stress and provide you with an avenue to seek coping tips

• Take care of yourself.

Don’t forget to take some time for your own needs.

• Focus on what is most meaningful.

Remind yourself that not everything has to be perfect.

Contact Twila Doucet, caregiver coordinator at Area Agency on Aging 580-234-7475 for more information on support groups and other help available.