What it’s like growing up as chief’s daughters
[Ed. Note: The following is the secondpart ofa two-part story started in Sunday’s paper about retiring Kingfisher Police Chief Dennis Baker and his family.]
Kelsi Zapata and her sister Kori Baker can’t really say if their lives were different growing up in a law enforcement household.
They really don’t have anything to compare it to.
Baker had already joined the police force before older daughter Kelsi was born and was named police chief when younger daughter Kori was just 5.
“There were a lot of comments made, of course,” Kelsi said. “The funniest one was when a girl came up to me in the cafeteria line and asked if dad ‘went commando’ at home.”
The girl was asking whether Baker took his police persona home with him, but since the phrase also has a slightly more off-color urban dictionary meaning, the family had a good laugh about that.
“I try to make a point to always wear underwear, both at home and elsewhere,” Baker said wryly.
In fact, Baker made an effort never to take his police attitude home with him.
“It was important to me to keep those two worlds separate,” he said. “I didn’t talk about work and I tried my best not to think about it.
“When I was home, I was husband and dad.”
Ironically, both girls name their mother Lora as the true disciplinarian of the home — a rule enforcer not to be crossed.
“Dad was the fun guy - the crazy guy who would dance with us and make sidewalk art,” Kori said. “He always did a good job of switching off when he got to the front door.”
Of course, both girls had to get used to the comments that would come from being dropped off at school in a cop car every morning.
And over-protectiveness was an occupational hazard from both parents. (Lora worked for years for the state Commission on Children and Youth, an agency whose responsibilities included investigating deaths of children in state custody, among others.)
Kelsi remembers the first time she walked home after school — “I was a freshman in high school!”
“A friend I was walking with commented ‘man, there’s not much traffic on 13th Street today’ and then we looked and saw Dad blocking off traffic with his patrol car so we could cross the street,” she said. “Then we looked behind us and saw mom trailing us in her car.”
“Maybe we were a tad overprotective,” Lora said with a smile.
It wasn’t until Kelsi was out of high school that she learned that some students avoided her because of her law enforcement dad.
“I’ve heard comments as an adult like ‘wow, you’re really cool, I thought you were a narc in high school:” she said.
Both girls also talked about the perks of being the chief’s daughter — like having a prime seat at the Christmas parade every year.
And both of them also talked abouthow much they appreciated the community’s support of their dad the back slaps and high fives he receives whenever they are out with him.
“Maybe now that he’s retired, people will notice we’re there too,” Kori joked.
Among Baker’s retirement plans are spending more time with both daughters, both of whom have wedding plans in their future.
And spending even more time with his current favorite little person, granddaughter Auden Zapata.
She starts school in the fall and can look forward to being picked up every day by her Papa.
Only this time he’ll be driving a civilian vehicle.